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Looking back: advice for parents of twins

Can’t believe that it has been almost three years. I think my posts stopped around the time I headed back to work full time.  Still, this rearview look has it’s advantages.  For those of you that will be having twins, here are some things I would have done differently:

1. Have someone at your house that knows babies when you get home from the hospital.   We thought we would have the first week or so to ourselves before my sister (total baby expert) joined me for a week. Big mistake. We knew nothing. I was scared of everything about them. I was too scared to bath them.  I was scared every time they made a peep. And I cringe to this day of how they screamed that first night. I know now they were hungry but I was afraid of overfeeding them.  What an idiot (me, not them).

2. Be easy on yourself. Everything you do will not be perfect but that’s ok.  Look around you – all these people survived to parenthood and believe me, some of them had parents that are more incompetent than you.

3. Forget all the sleep/ sleep training books.  Do what feels right for you. I couldn’t, still can’t let them scream and cry.  So I haven’t slept a lot in almost three years but it can’t go on forever.  When they’re teenagers I will get my revenge when I make them get up in the morning when they want to sleep in.

4. Coffee is no longer bad for you. Drink lots of it.

5. I think the best book I had for early development stuff was Burton White’s “The New First Three Years of Life”  It was actually written awhile ago so you would think they had come out with something newer but I couldnt find anything that wasn’t pop psyhycology.  His book was based on research and I found the development stages and how to handle them very accurate.

6. Gear stuff – what you need and what you don’t – that deserves a post in itself – coming soon!